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“Helping our family”

Categories: Marriage and Family

            Imagine for a moment your business is failing or a project you are working on is not going the way it is supposed to; what would you do?  My guess is most of us would do everything we could to correct the problems.  We might contact someone who has experience in the area you are working and ask them to help you.  A person might even go and get more training or education to help them to improve the situation.  The point is most of us would just not let our business or project fail without trying our very best to correct the problems and improve the situation.

            Now what about our families?  What if our family is falling apart, what are we going to do about it?  I find it interesting how little thought; we often give our families and marriages today in light of scripture.  Shouldn’t we put as much effort or even more than we would if it was our business or a project we might be working on?

            The one thing that the Bible is clear on is that we should do what we can to help improve and strengthen our family relationships; after all family is a God designed institution as we see in Genesis 2:21-24. 

            In order to begin helping our families the first thing each family must do is to put God first.  Matthew 6:33 teaches us to, “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”  No matter how bad things may be with one’s family the first step is always putting God first, start studying His Word, praying, and get involved with the worship and work of the church (Heb. 10:25). 

            Once God is in His proper place in our family the next thing to do is rekindle our relationship with our spouse.   Again Genesis 2:21-24 reminds us that when a husband and wife come together, they are to leave their home of origin and cleave to each other.  Adam in Genesis 2:23 also recognized that Eve was his lifelong love and mate.  In Genesis 2:24 points out the couple become “one flesh” is only recognized in marriage and is pointing to sexual intimacy, the raising of children and the weaving together of two lives into one.  All other forms of sexual intimacy, raising of children and the weaving of lives is either unlawful, ungodly, or made more difficult when God’s design is avoided or ignored.  The wisdom and warning in Proverbs 5:1-23 compares the way of immorality and the way of God’s design for marriage and God’s way is always the best. 

            But last when God and one’s spouse are receiving the proper attention in the family, then children need to be helped.   Malachi 2:15, instructs, “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth.”  God desires godly offspring, and in this passage the implication is that the husband and wife play a major role in this. 

Children need to be taught how to put God first in their lives, this does not come naturally.  Children learn from observing, listening, and relating to their parents.  Research tells us that, “parents are teaching their children about God’s plan in their lives around the clock.If our children see us reading the Bible, praying, obeying the word of God in our daily life and wanting to be involved in the worship assemble, more than often our children will want to do these things as well.

If our families need help, will we put the effort into them to get them to be as God designed?  Think about it.                                                                       Written by Mark T. Tonkery